All aspects of human life keep changing and evolving in this ever-changing world. From a mere two recognized genders, we have come so far as to recognize seventy-two more genders besides male and female. Along with the varied gender identities, sexual identities have also diversified which has led to added dimensions to human relationships that each of us is learning to navigate. The conventional binary categorization of gender has given way to a more unconstrained, nonlinear conceptualization – one encompassing a boundless spectrum of identities in flux. To be gender fluid is to transcend the façade of societal labels, inhabiting one’s gender on one’s own malleable terms.
In parallel, our intimate relationships are increasingly shedding the confines we historically placed around sexual attraction, behavior, and partnerships. As our societal mindsets evolve, we are awakening to the natural fluidity of sexuality – its innate resistance to remaining defined or contained within a mold. By elevating consent, compassion, and respect for individual journeys above all else, we allow diversity to be lived vibrantly.
Dr Chandni Tugnait is M.D. (Alternative Medicines), Psychotherapist, Life Coach, Business Coach, NLP Expert, Healer, Founder & Director – Gateway of Healing shares some things to keep in mind while navigating the gender and sexual fluidity in relationships
- Embracing relationship fluidityDealing with the intricacies of gender and sexual fluidity in the context of relationships necessitates a thorough comprehension of these ideas. Don’t presume changes in gender or sexuality equate to changes in how your partner feels about you. Discuss your relationship openly.
- Communication is keyCommunication is the foundation of all human relationships. When people are open and straightforward with their thoughts and feelings, navigating any situation and circumstance in life becomes much more manageable. Communication is just as important in a romantic relationship as it is in any other aspect of life. Being vocal about your desires, expectations, likes and dislikes to your partner will pave the way for building a solid foundation for that relationship.
- Respect for individual journeyWe encounter numerous experiences, meet individuals with diverse opinions, and learn many parts of ourselves and others as we traverse life. These interactions shape our identities and our perspectives on life. Uncertainties, shifts, and disillusionment are unavoidable on this road. Individuals learn and explore when it comes to understanding gender and sexual flexibility. Allowing them the opportunity to do so at their own speed and respecting their individual journey is important while we continue to navigate our own.
- Breaking free from societal expectationsOur society has set certain expectations for us; over time, those expectations have become the norm. When someone goes against that, that person is usually frowned upon, even when, by doing so, the person is being true to themselves. So, it has become imperative that we break free from those societal expectations to be ourselves.
- Embracing changeWe must allow the buds of identity to bloom in their own way, unbound by the strictures of how we think they should grow. To truly see our loved ones, we must nurture an openness to who they know themselves to be – even when it diverges from the path we predicted. Rather than resisting the evolution of our partners’ gender and sexuality, we can choose to walk beside them in their journey of self-discovery. By giving space for their unique growth, we can cultivate relationships that are more understanding and fulfilling.
A relationship undergoing this exploration must be anchored in acceptance – seeing our partner clearly, even when societal norms blur the view. Together, we can chart new territory when we open our minds to identities that fluctuate across the full spectrum of human expression. With compassion as our compass, we can support our loved ones’ journeys of self-discovery, wherever they may lead. If you decide to stay together, consciously renew your commitment to each other’s well-being amidst the changes. Make space to process your own emotions. These changes impact you too. Seek counseling to navigate your feelings productively if need be.
